How to identify clients you don’t want to work with and how to NOT step in to the arena with codependency and take responsibility.
I learned my lesson just once and very early and have NEVER crossed the line since.
Hence why I don’t work with everyone who wants to work with me, #sorrynotsorry
I’ve got strict criteria – not everyone’s ready for the level I work at.
The reality is, as coaches, we are looking to empower people to TRANSFORM, GROW, LIVE EMPOWERED!
Not provide life rafts to keep them from drowning. That’s helicopter “coaching”… doing it to save others who don’t need saving.
Done when we are afraid our clients won’t get results and it’ll reflect on us.
This is when we disempower and start doing things for our clients, sending reminders or making meal plans or even meeting them for workouts instead of empowering them to do it independently themselves.
Over-giving, fixing, doing – who’s been here? :woman_raising_hand: I’m absolutely speaking from past experience.
So when the results aren’t happening for your clients, what do you do?
A- Beat yourself up about being a crappy coach and just keep pushing and hoping your client will change.
B- Explain away that they have to show up to get the results and it’s the clients problem if they don’t.
C- Explore what’s really going on, we know a lack of action has a much deeper meaning then “laziness”. Find out the depth and refer to someone who is a master with providing what extra support your client needs.
I vote C, every single time, this experience has enabled me to get so far in my own results as well as my clients. But I do recommend with two very important things:
Strict criteria on who you will and won’t work with. STRICT.
Here’s an example:
I’ll work with women who are determined, motivated and driven to create financial freedom. These women are go-getters, fast action takers and know exactly what they want. They will take risks and can see what’s possible for them (I don’t need to remind or convince them).
I won’t work with people who demonstrate a lack of action, little results, zero personal accountability, blaming everyone or everything else, aren’t prepared to be vulnerable.
And make it clear from the very first sales conversation onwards about my expectations and how I handle situations when expectations aren’t being met. (Since we aren’t in it just for sh*ts and giggs, as they say).
Now, some of you might be thinking, I’m already in one of these relationships where I feel I need to call the client or send daily text messages or cook for them or write their love letters or whatever else.
If that’s you, time to push up your sleeves and have a straight up conversation (zero judgement). Get super curious with your client on what’s really going on – we know it runs deeper. When you know the general direction, you can bring in the additional masterful resources who can assist you in changing the game for your client.
The end goal is always their results.
Ps. An example, I don’t do timeline therapy, trauma work, energy or emotional healing. I’m an Organic Business Strategist who sets a solid strategy, builds confidence and empowerment – the rest, I have an awesome team on hand to refer to my clients if they need it/want it.
And while my coach does deep coaching work, she’s referred me for high level business strategy before and I still get emotional and energy healing from a healer to keep me moving forward.
See how it works? There’s not one size fits all.
We are unstoppable this way! 🙌🙌🙌